You Too Have a Unique Voice the World Needs To Hear
This is not about accomplishments. Rather about unleashing your authentic and true self!
“The greatest act of courage is to be and to own all of who you are — without apology, without excuses, without masks to cover the truth of who you are.” — Debbie Ford.
If someone told me three years ago that:
I wouldn’t suffer from the Imposter Syndrome fueling my former workaholism and perfectionism anymore,
I wouldn’t say yes to people while saying no to myself, and I can be an aware empath with strong and healthy boundaries,
I would become an active and lifelong learner interested in psychology, ancient wisdom and philosophies, quantum physics, epigenetics, and the list goes on,
I wouldn’t feel any void even when doing nothing,
I wouldn’t care about being called crazy or naive or a loser,
I’d become way more fulfilled by consuming responsibly and content by the minimum required to live decently,
I’d unleash limitless amounts of genuine love not only for myself but also for the whole Universe,
I’d be wearing my peaceful smile every day, even amid the most challenging situations,
I’d be, graciously, saved from ending my life at the very last moment,
I’d become a fur kids Mamma,
I’d cry out of joy, deep and soul-soothing discussions, seeing some principled missions and passions in action, witnessing any tiny impact on other beings’ lives, observing a healthy relationship manifestation, etc,
I’d go to Brazil for three months in the middle of a pandemic to volunteer while accompanied by my first baby MiMi,
I’d write a single word, needless to talk about being a contributing author in a book celebrating stories of triumph.
I’d have had a shocked facial expression before adding, “Are you on drugs?”
Why am I telling you the above? Why am I writing at all? Because, like all of you, I have a voice, and I feel that maybe… just maybe someone somewhere on the globe might need to hear it.
The freedom of not having to religiously follow the notebook of a never-enough, competitive, and cover-up culture anymore including:
Surviving through one’s accomplishments or social status or fame, and proving one’s worth externally because the intrinsic one was discriminated against,
Having weak boundaries, pleasing, and appeasing with the hope of getting some appreciation — a gift that we can’t give to ourselves while we have no clue about self-consideration and self-love concepts,
Shutting down one’s feelings and never dare be real and vulnerable even with one’s close circle — needless to mention in public settings,
Wearing a million masks depending on the context,
… and the list goes on.
Has no equal. For the major part of my current existence on Mother Earth, I was physically free but never experienced mental freedom. I had to be pushed by life to a point of no return to start being aware of the trap and using an endowment we all humans share: self-awareness.
Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Viktor E. Frankl said it best not once or twice but three times:
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.
But there was no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.
Final thoughts
If the former miserable version of me could break free from the rat race vicious circle, then you would do wonders should you give it a serious try!
I will not lie to you. The process is not easy. It requires tons of humility, honesty, openness, and consistency. Most importantly, bravery because the accompanying pain is seemingly unbearable.
Here is an extract from an old essay about suffering:
The Communists captured Pilecki in 1947, and they didn’t go easy on him. He was tortured for almost a year, so harshly and consistently, that he told his wife that “Auschwitz was just a trifle” by comparison. Still, he never cooperated with his interrogators. Eventually, realizing they could get no information from him, the Communists decided to make an example of him. In 1948, they held a show trial and charged Pilecki with everything from falsifying documents and violating curfew to engaging in espionage and treason. A month later, he was found guilty and sentenced to death. On the final day of the trial, Pilecki was allowed to speak. He stated that his allegiance had always been to Poland and its people, that he had never harmed or betrayed any Polish citizen, and that he regretted nothing. He concluded his statement with “I have tried to live my life such that in the hour of my death, I would feel joy rather than fear”. And if that’s not the most hardcore thing you’ve ever heard, then I want some of what you’re having. — Mark Manson
The trick and, at the same time, the good news is to find a purpose that goes beyond yourself and use it as your motivation to transform and (un)become the filter***.
Every time I was feeling like giving up, all I had to do was to remind myself of my “why” to see my courage rise again. You can call it magic!
Know this: You are worth the effort. Investing in yourself for a higher mission would be your most rewarding investment. The Universe needs your unique voice because it makes a difference even if you still do not believe it.
***(Un)become the filter: getting rid of all the lifetime of conditioning constructs and reconnecting with the True Self. Moving from the personality sphere to the character arena.
Amazing one. Great to read. Thanks!